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作者: mcsimon0574 時間: 2005-6-16 12:15 AM 標題: 好煩...2擇1 ... 大家幫幫我

事源就係咁.
我只係一個好普通的男仔.今年18 三年前我同一個對我幾好.但係在各方面都有些問題(家庭,外表,打扮,行為)的女仔拍拖(A君)..一拍就三年..但係試過2次分手...不過都係係番一齊. 3個月前. 再一次分手...
今次我巳經諗得好清楚,同佢好絕咁分左手.咁話唔會再搵大家..
係依3個月. 佢搵到第二個男朋友. 而我亦搵到第二個女朋友(B君) . B君係icq識..我地第一晚就傾左好耐計...都有4-5個鐘.我同佢係十日內巳經發展到可算係男女朋友的關係. 佢係一個對我好好既女仔.佢識煮飯,打扮. 樣子,身材都ok . 係一個幾好的女仔....我巳經打算佢係我終生的對象.
但係依個時候, a君再次出現, 煩左我幾日...佢亦知b君,..佢又話想同番我一齊. 可以就我好多野..就算好難改的事.a君都會去改.....
係依種情況下..你地會點做呀??

作者: Rika 時間: 2005-6-16 12:35 AM

Originally posted by mcsimon0574 at 2005-6-16 12:15 AM:
事源就係咁.
我只係一個好普通的男仔.今年18 三年前我同一個對我幾好.但係在各方面都有些問題(家庭,外表,打扮,行為)的女仔拍拖(A君)..一拍就三年..但係試過2次分手...不過都係係番一齊. 3個月前. 再一次分手...
今次我巳經諗得好清楚,同佢好絕咁分左手.咁話唔會再搵大家..
係依3個月. 佢搵到第二個男朋友. 而我亦搵到第二個女朋友(B君) . B君係icq識..我地第一晚就傾左好耐計...都有4-5個鐘.我同佢係十日內巳經發展到可算係男女朋友的關係. 佢係一個對我好好既女仔.佢識煮飯,打扮. 樣子,身材都ok . 係一個幾好的女仔....我巳經打算佢係我終生的對象.
但係依個時候, a君再次出現, 煩左我幾日...佢亦知b君,..佢又話想同番我一齊. 可以就我好多野..就算好難改的事.a君都會去改.....
係依種情況下..你地會點做呀??

機會我覺得一次就夠，佢無珍惜，係佢既錯，加上我估佢返黎搵返你，可能只係有競爭既心態，佢想贏B君
都同B開始左，佢又唔差，又預左成世同佢一齊，B君都無做錯過，好明顯，B君啦

[ Last edited by Rika on 2005-6-16 at 12:39 AM ]

作者: nightmare 時間: 2005-6-16 12:36 AM

比我會同ａ一齊．．
但係會有第４，第５．．．第６次．．．分手．．
其實就禁睇，答案好簡單，一定係ｂ．．
不過，你有咩吸引到ｂ呀？？
你有冇諗過可能係因為你有野吸引到ｂ，佢鍾意你，所以先扮到對你ｏｒ其他野禁好呢？？
仲有，大家既了解係唔係可以同ａ相比呢？？
係呢ｄ因素下．．
再加上本人比較懶．．
我唔想從新開始了解另一半，咩都重新發展．．
我寧願信多次．．同ａ一齊．．

（ｐｓ，呢ｄ野係冇一個道理講出黎既．．
冇論結果係點，到你大個左，你都唔會後悔．．
因為你見到後生時，曾經試過激烈既戀愛．．
禁就夠喇．．！！）

作者: Gretzky 時間: 2005-6-16 12:39 AM

Never go back....never....unless you want to repeat the cycle....

If you go to a foodstall to buy orange...and repeatedly you get some rotten oranges...will you go back to the stall and buy it again..even if the owner has changed her cloths and wrapping bag? Bad orange is bad orange.

Move on la....I am serious....it's normal to have some 'feelings' 3 months after breakup (remember you've been together w/ her, on and off, for 3 yrs)....based on what you've said....I don't think she knows (A) what she's doing.

Of course the question for you now is: DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING? (If u are not struggling, you won't be asking us...I suppose).

Good luck,
Gretz.

作者: kaixinren 時間: 2005-6-16 12:55 AM

好馬不喫囬頭草！而且妳你又講到B甘好，“巳經打算佢係我終生的對象”。

其實道理好簡單，分手左甘多次，一定有些不可解決的問題存在你們中間。

就算繫兩個都唔完美，你都應該選個可以用少點力氣改造的啦！不用迷茫啦！

[ Last edited by kaixinren on 2005-6-16 at 02:57 AM ]

作者: nightmare 時間: 2005-6-16 01:20 AM

冇人支持我，哈哈．．
禁你都係選ｂ啦如果你喜歡．．
我驚累左你．．＝﹏＝””

作者: homan~ 時間: 2005-6-16 01:24 AM

Originally posted by mcsimon0574 at 2005-6-16 12:15 AM:
事源就係咁.
我只係一個好普通的男...

既然你同A 試過唔夾, 就冇謂一齊啦
一齊只會仲辛苦jar

阿 B 你同佢都ok gwa???
俾果機會大家, 唔夾大不了分手,
第二果law

最緊要係,
你同A 仲有冇feel 先?
大家仲有冇可能一齊先?
同B 有冇feel ?
同B 一齊會唔會開心過 A???

希望幫到你啦

作者: homan~ 時間: 2005-6-16 01:26 AM

Originally posted by nightmare at 2005-6-16 01:20 AM:
冇人支持我，哈哈．．
禁你都係選ｂ啦如果你喜歡．．
我驚累左你．．＝﹏＝””

brother,
我支持你 "激烈戀愛" ga wo~

俾d 回憶自己不知幾好 ~

作者: naz124 時間: 2005-6-16 01:29 AM

Just imagine who you would want to turn to when you are really sad, who you would want to share your happiest moments with. Even though A has her faults, you may love her more and vice versa.

作者: nightmare 時間: 2005-6-16 01:40 AM

Originally posted by homan~ at 2005-6-16 01:26:

brother,
我支持你 "激烈戀愛" ga wo~

俾d 回憶自己不知幾好 ~

多謝多謝．．
我都係扮下野發表下．．＾＾”
我既淺見唔算得係乜．．＝０＝

作者: stupidness 時間: 2005-6-16 09:14 AM

B for Best Choice!!!!

作者: mcsimon0574 時間: 2005-6-16 09:48 AM

但係話曬都3年時間. 我都有d唔捨得佢...雖然a君比唔上b君...但係佢始終有佢個人既優點.
我驚我真係會心(遠)...你地明唔明呀??....其實開頭同b君一齊. 都只是為左激a君...相處落先覺得幾好...先有空間發展..

作者: dg666 時間: 2005-6-16 11:08 AM

Originally posted by mcsimon0574 at 2005-6-16 09:48 AM:
但係話曬都3年時間. 我都有d唔捨得佢....

唔.... 好難選擇,我明白.3年的感情不是那麼可以放得低,你們一起經歷好多,要忘記不易,應說超超....超難.我是過來人,我要忘記7年.我都唔明我前女友點解可以...

不過你已經和另一人開始,而且那人對你好,你又想和她終生到老,你和前女友分手又太多次.你要冷靜地想一想,你想和誰終老?(當然若你只想拍散拖就唔同)

只看你講的資料一定選B.

作者: skysword 時間: 2005-6-16 11:20 AM

I have a similar situation ar... I am breaking up with my 6 yrs gf...  (I don't have a new gf tho)
I think 我諗得好清楚.  There are too many problems between us.
However, when she call me and ask to get back together, I don't know what to say...
I think I have a little 心(遠), but I really think we will break up in the future if we get back together.  Deep down in heart think breaking up is the best choice, but it's hard to do.

I don't want to hurt her, and I do care about her.  Any suggestion how I can handle this?

作者: gundamman678 時間: 2005-6-16 11:43 AM

我既case同你差不多，所以好明白你既感受......新的一個當然是會覺得好，但舊的一個比較了解，亦清楚自己同佢相處得會好夾，如果唔係過往點會一齊咁耐。而且我同你都可能係比較念舊情既人，所以真係唔想自己會令到前女友唔開心......雖然係佢變心先至會散，但始終都對佢好份感情，所以真係好難去選擇同邊個一齊......

作者: toro 時間: 2005-6-17 02:44 AM

我覺得同一煲冷飯炒完再炒，死硬！另，積極回應者各加三分

作者: mcsimon0574 時間: 2005-6-17 02:17 PM

我終於擇左啦.....我聽左你地意見後.都覺得b係好d..但係個心好似仲係放唔低a君../.
我巳經叫左a君唔好再搵我啦...但係又好似唔捨得咁...有沒方法可以忘記佢呀.

作者: pkpkpkpkp 時間: 2005-6-17 05:11 PM

Originally posted by mcsimon0574 at 2005-6-17 02:17 PM:
我終於擇左啦.....我聽左你地意見後....

你同a君講:收皮啦你凸=.="
搞掂=.=............

作者: mcsimon0574 時間: 2005-6-17 11:26 PM

但係話曬都有三年感情..凸佢我真係做唔出.

作者: kuni 時間: 2005-6-18 12:09 AM

你問得呢個問題, 其實都揀左B啦 (你成個post 都讚B 貶A）
只係想大家支持你啫，比ｄ信心自己啦

作者: 天使藍 時間: 2005-6-18 02:24 AM

兄弟兩個你都唔好揀喇
因為你係全心咁鍾意(a)就唔會鍾意(b)啦
(b)就唔會鍾意(a)啦
當你有得揀,你就係兩個都唔鍾意啦,當你揀左(a)/(b)後
將來有(c)出現既話,你又會問揀(a)/(b)定係(c)
咁你無謂害左人地啦

但你係都要揀一個既,揀b囉,當鍾意a就唔會分手啦(第1次可能做錯)
但第2次都係分手,就正明分手係o岩啦

但下次你同b分手後,又出現c(樣比c靚,身材比佢好,又樣樣識)
你咪又係同c一齊,之後b又可能變返a既情況

所以兄弟諗清楚喇^o^

作者: homan~ 時間: 2005-6-18 11:36 PM

Originally posted by mcsimon0574 at 2005-6-17 02:17 PM:
我終於擇左啦.....我聽左你地意見後....

恭喜你決定左 !!!!!

要放低要時間架

ex: 你可以拋棄所有關於佢既相, 禮物
delete 佢既 icq, 電話, msn..........
同 b 一齊多d

你對阿b 好d 啦~

作者: gundamman678 時間: 2005-6-18 11:56 PM

但我覺得無需要掉晒和A有關的東西，因為我覺得以往同佢一齊係人生既經歷之一，而且仲係一段對自己來講幾重要既經歷，所以應該留為記念，總之自己分得清楚，留低呢d唔係念念不忘，只係作為自己人生既記錄就得啦。

作者: homan~ 時間: 2005-6-19 12:22 AM

Originally posted by gundamman678 at 2005-6-18 11:56 PM:
但我覺得無需要掉晒和A有關的東西，因...

都ok 既 ~

驚佢唔捨得jar~

作者: karate_pau 時間: 2005-6-21 06:22 AM

聽你講好似b正d wor
要b啦

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