[愛情診療室] 異地戀...問題

sang50

同女朋友先三個月...佢就要去外國讀書
一去要去五年... 每一年聖誕前都會回來兩個月
走前彼此承諾過...要等大家...

成日都會係度諗... 究竟咁做係咪一件好事?
大家既家人都一一見過... 佢屋企人講過
[[ 係香港唔好有咩事... 千奇唔好影響佢讀書]]

不知道為何... 我好愛佢
但唔想再拖住佢...想放佢自由/// 事實上又唔係咁想佢走
好亂...個心好亂''' 有冇人可以教我點做?

kakeidevil

順其自然喇....
到時可能你中意左第2個,又或者佢中意第2個
又可能你地最終又可以等到大家呢

總之只要你一刻仲愛佢,就盡你所能對佢好喇

chong2002

小弟現實d 講句
"放手 放開所有"
因為太多例子(自己d friends) 話我知 大多係失敗
更何況你同佢只係3個月?我相信個愛情同感情基礎一定唔夠堅固
有d 例子離譜到 果邊有條仔 依邊又有條仔
所以 我對異地戀 唔係咁睇好

當然 依d 一定有例外
問題係 你同佢係咪真係做到 承諾等5年

e_e

我覺得都係果句 ... 盡人事 , 聽天命
不盡人事 , 你將會為自己未盡力而懊悔
但天意如此 , 也無憾了吧~~

ilovesai666

我有朋友是等到對方回來....
雖然剛回來不久~
不知道遲d會點
但係起碼而家都仲一齊....

盡左力就ok....有時想太多無謂
試左先啦....

sas

我都有朋友有類近的cast
都係過外國讀書
當然男出國有，女出國亦都有
根據非正式統計
10居其8
都係對方有左第2個，或者不信任對方
終日疑神疑鬼

當然亦都有人等到或者仲等緊
當然呢d只不過係前人的數字
只能參考，不能作準

坦白講
就算大家都係香港讀書又如何?
我係電話同你講
我番緊工，其實我同第條女出街，開房
你又會信囉？我真係番緊工？
你都唔係親眼見到嫁？
講來講去，都係個信字

再講5年的時間咁長
假設你地都係青少年
你願唔願意等咁耐？
你願意，但你抵抗到外間的誘惑嗎？

個結論係，今日唔知聽日事
比你等到聽日，難保後日，大後日
想做就去做啦！！

[ 本帖最後由 sas 於 2009-2-2 03:54 AM 編輯 ]

chansuper123

朋友,信不信緣, 緣聚,無論分開多遠,相識多短,會一起,緣盡,無論多努力是徒然, 順其自然吧, 明天可能真命天子才出現呢, 所以不要太過心煩,心亂,

march23

時間長短唔係太大問題，最緊要係有緣份！祝你好運！

Hkwan

I can tell you my own experience, I had Long d with my gf for 4 years, we said we would wait each other, we did. But at last i decide to stay here in the US for further study, we broke up. Not that i am not love her or wht, i still love her very much. We break up because she doesnt want always eagering a bf beside her but I cant give her any. She decided to keep our relationship as friends. We passed through a lot during these 4 years, we know we both love each other a lot, but then, it's really hard for my gf to wait another few years again.
so we break up after all these challenges. All of my friends no matter in HK or US felt shock to our seperation because we were really a pair of very sweet couple. No one can believe it.
What i want to say is that.
If you really want to keep this relationship successfully. It's really tough. At last you may end up with the result you didnt want. As no one knows the future. Maybe she will be like me, after 5 years, she want to stay there for further study or work. It's too far away from now to say you MUST wait for her i think.
I suggest that you keep her as a very close good friend in all these years, sharing each other stuff. If she really comes back then you two get back together. THis is because i think that in all of my 4 years with my gf, our lives are very restricted, as you are in a relationship of a pair of couple. After all these years, I really notice that having our own lives is really important for a developing relationship. Many things needed to pay a lot of attention, need to get a balance in your care to her and her own development of life. Trust and honesty is really important.

I did knew few people did pass through all these Long distant challenges and get marry at last. but most of them cant last long. Start this kind of relationship need enormous tolerance, communication and understanding. For both of you it's really a tough challenge. Dont start this unless you two have the same goal and enough faith.

Good Luck, you may ask me if you have other questions, I am willing to share.